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Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth!

By Andrea Seydel author of Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone with an Addiction

It's not who you are that holds you back. It's who you think you're not. Self-worth is an internal state of being that comes from self-acceptance and self-love. It's a measure of how you value and regard yourself despite what others may say or do. Loving someone with an addiction can quickly erode self-worth.

You Are Enough: Tap Back into Your Self-Worth: In this article, you will learn about what self-worth is and where it comes from, and how to cultivate worthiness by seeing your value!


What is self-worth?

Self-worth means that you value yourself and you have a sense that you are worthy. It's a general feeling that you are a good person who deserves respect. Self-worth is the opinion you have about yourself and the value you know you can bring to the world. An example of self-worth may be that you believe you are a good person who deserves good things. Self-worth is pretty much self-valuing. Self-worth is also about self-love, and it means being on your team.

What is the difference between self-esteem and self-worth?

You might be wondering what the difference is between self-esteem and self-worth. Self-esteem is what we think, feel, and believe about ourselves. Self-worth is having a deep knowing that you have value, you are lovable, you are necessary to this life, and you have worth. The main difference is that you can have self-esteem and think that you're good at something and still not feel convinced that you are loveable or worthy. Self-worth goes deeper and has a more significant impact. Self-esteem is more about feeling good about yourself. But the question then becomes what happens when we don't feel good about ourselves?


Tap Back into Your Self-Worth:

What should NOT determine your inherent value or self-worth, and what does.

Read through the list below and assess your self-worth. You might have to dig a little bit deeper to find the things that contribute to your self-worth. Self-esteem-boosting things seem to scream louder and are apparent. Find your inherent value. Write in your journal.

1. What should NOT determine your inherent value:

Your to-do list.

Your job.

Your social media following.

Your age.


Material possessions.

How far you can jog.

The marks that you get at school.

Your relationship status.

How much money you have in the bank.

Other people.

2. What is your inherent value or worth? Need a little help? Here are some statements that might get you started:

No matter what I have done or haven't done, I am worthy of love.

The things in my life do not define me.

I am allowed to feel whatever it is I am feeling.

I take responsibility for my mistakes; "I did a bad thing" instead of "I am bad."

It's not about what happens; it's about how I respond to what happens.

I put my own needs first.

I create space for my emotions without feeling guilty.

I can be considerate of others.

I create time and space just for myself.

I honour my boundaries.

I find joy in doing what I love.

I lean on loved ones for support.

I connect to what I value most in life.

I listen to my truth.

I am a part of something greater and never alone.

I see opportunities to learn and grow.

I accept myself and others.

I am thankful for the challenges in my life.

I am learning and growing.

Every day I find something to be grateful for.

Even amidst challenges, I can find things I can say thank you for.

I influence the way I live.


Here is some food for thought:

What is your inherent value or worth? What value do you know you bring?

What would your best friend say about you?

What would someone who admires and loves you say about you and the value you bring to this world?

Journal your answers.

When we go through the struggle and challenge, it's easy to lose self-esteem. Self-worth means that you value yourself and you have a sense that you are worthy. No other person can take away the value you bring to this world.

For further support: Do not hesitate to listen to the SYKM podcast or purchase the book

You can also reach out to Andrea Seydel herself at

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