Updated: Aug 11
By Andrea Seydel
FEEL THE FEAR... AND DO IT ANYWAY: Dynamic techniques for turning fear, indecision, and anger into power, action, and love.
Are you afraid of making decisions, asking a boss for a raise, leaving a failing relationship, facing the future? What is it for you? Fear of... Pubic speaking, asserting yourself, making decisions, being alone, aging,? What ever your fear, here is your chance to push through it once and for all.
Dr. Susan jeffers inspires us with techniqes and profound concepts.
Are you ready to learn How to become powerful in the face of fears - to Grab your fears and move forward with your life.
This book helps us discover: What we are afraid of, and why. How to move from victim to creator. The secret of making no-lose decisions. The virtual step-by-step process that helps you outtalk the negative chatter box in your brain. How to create more meaning in your life.
This book offers actual workable advice to fearless living.
The common denominator is the fact that fear is keeping us from experiencing life the way we want to experience it.
HOW IS FEAR HOLDING YOU BACK? HOW HAS FEAR HELD YOU BACK?
WHAT ARE YOU AFRAID OF... AND WHY?
What are you afraid of? Really think about it and what stands out for you? I am afraid of being along., I am afraid of people judging me. I am afraid I won't have enough money. Fear can be broken down into three levels.
Level 1 fears: The first level is surface story, this level up here is divided into two types those that happenFear can be broken down into three levels. The first level is surface story, this level up here is divided into two types those that happen. Those that happen examples are ageing being alone change. Examples of those requiring action are going back to school, making decisions, asserting oneself.
Level 2 fears: level two fears have to deal with interior states of mind rather than exterior situations. They reflect the sense of self and your ability to handle this world. And example of level two beers might be rejection. It's the air causes us to protect ourselves and as a result limit ourselves.
Level 3 fears: at the bottom of every one of your fears is simply the fear that you can't handle whatever life may bring you. Examples might be. Any statement of I can't handle it. I can't handle making a mistake. I can't handle failure. The truth is if you know you could handle anything I could come your way, what would you possibly have to fear!!
Bottom line: All you have to do to diminish your fear is develop more trust in your ability to handle whatever comes your way!!! Whatever happens to me, given any situation, I CAN HANDLE IT. I'LL HANDLE IT.,
CAN'T YOU MAKE IT GO AWAY?
Truth: the fear will never go away.. The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it. To feel better about yourself is to go out and do it. The "doing it" comes before feeling better about yourself. You are going to feel fear in unfamiliar territory, but so does everybody else. Helplessness feels worse than fear. Push through fear. IT WON"T GO AWAY!
WHETHER YOU WANT IT OR NOT... It's yours Take responsibility for your own life.The truth is we really are in control. TIPS: become aware of where and when you are not taking responsibility so that you can eventually change. Figure out what you want in life and act on it. Be aware of your choices. List the payoffs you get from being STUCK What don't you have to face. What don't you have to do? What comfort do you gain? Determine what you want in life and act on it. Be aware of the many choices we have.
FROM PAIN TO POWER
We are innately designed to use our personal power. When you don't, you experience a sense of helplessness, paralysis and depression. It is important to get in touch with your powerful self.
Pain to power Vocabulary: I can't to I won't. I should too I could. It's not my fault to I'm totally responsible. It's a problem totally responsible. It's a problem to It's an opportunity. I'm never satisfied to I want to learn and grow. Life's a struggle to Life's an adventure. I hope to I know. If only to Next time. What will I do? to I know I can handle it. It's terrible to It's a learning experience.,
WHEN "THEY" DON'T WANT YOU TO GROW
Take a good look at the people around you. Do they support your growing or do they drag you down? It is amazingly empowering to have the support of a strong, motivated, and inspirational group of people.
As you continue to grow your will notice you don't want to be around depression negative people. Energy is tangible and contagious. TIPS: Think about people you admire. Be with them more. Assume that your mate wants the best ro you and will ultimately love the positive changes in you. Be your own best friend. Which path in life will make you grow? This is the path to take.
POLLYANNA RIDES AGAIN
Don't be such a "pollyanna" Put you down for trying to look on the brighter side of things. What's wrong with looking at the positive side of things. General assumptions it that negative thinking's realistic ad positive is unrealistic. About 90% of what we worry about docent happen. Our negative worries have less than 10% chance of being correct. Positive thinking offers a power boost to help you handle whatever life gives you.
Why be miserable when you can be happy? How do you begin to turn around miserable thoughts that take away your power? Same as when body out of shape. Train. You must take action. TIPS: Audio podcasts, relaxation, meditation, Books that inspire and motivate, positive quotes that touch you, write them on index or post it. Affirmations or self talk in its highest from.
BEGINNER INTENSIVE FOR POSITIVE THINKING: 1. Listen to audios often, upon waking. 2. Pay attention to positive quotes, surround yourself with them. 3. Play music that makes your heart sing. 4. Repeat your affirmations. 5. Exercise and pump in your affirmations. "I feel the energy coursing through my body." 6. Keep learning (drive or walk) place positive messages. 7. Pick a special affirmation for the day. 8. Meditaion and relaxation at bed time. 9. Make positive thinking a daily practice.
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HOW TO MAKE A NO-LOSE DECISION
BE CAREFUL: You might make the wrong decision. Irony of not choosing, we are choosing not to. We fear the wrong decision might deprive us of something. We worry about making a mistake. The trick in life is not to worry about making a wrong decision, it's learning when to correct.
TIPS: Shift thinking to make a wrong discoid or mistake impossible. Right wrong thinking is a NO-win model. No-Lose model: Right choice A right choice B. Both are right choices. TRUST YOURSELF. Know you can handle anything that comes your way. Take healthy life affirming risk. Turn what if's into I can handle it. No-Lose model.
TIPS: Give yourself time to establish what you want most out of life. There are no right or wrong decisions, just different ones. Lighten up. Trust your impulses. Think of yourself as a life long student. Accept responsibility for your decision once made. Course correct when of course. SO WHAT YOU CAN HANDLE IT.
HOW WHOLE IS YOUR "WHOLE LIFE"
Keep asking yourself: HOW WHOLE IS MY LIFE?" When you continue to create richness for yourself, can you imagine how little you would have to fear. WHOLE LIFE COMPONENTS: Contribution, hobby, Leisure , Family, alone time, personal growth, work, relationship, friend.
If all you have is a relationship and that relationship ends, you have nothing left and you feel empty. TIPS: Act as if. Create your own call life Grid. Create a 9 box square grid. Take the box that needs your attention. Ask yourself what would your life look like? Consider each section. Write down what your mind has created for you. Create a whole balanced life. What actions are required to be successful. Each day create specific goals that reflect all the boxes.
JUST NOD YOUR HEAD- SAY "YES!"
SAY YES TO THE UNIVERSE. No matter what happens to you in life simply nod your head up and down, instead of shaking it side to side. Just say yes instead of no. Sometimes life hands us the WORST life can offer... And yet we come out winners.
The "universe" refers to that life plan that seems to take over despite what we have in mind. That "force"that operates on its own. saying yes lets go of resistance and opens us up to possibilities. It's a miracle tool to for dealing with our deepest fears. Acknowledge pain. Saying YES means getting up and actin on your belief that you can create meaning and purpose in whatever life hands you.
TIPS: What are you saying NO to? What can you find value in? Nod your head and day yes. Look for ways to create value from any experience. Be patient.
FILLING THE INNER VOID
We've talked about powerful tools: Affrimtations, saying yes tot the universe, taking responsibility, No-lose decisions, Saying yes and trusting. All work because they allow us to feel "FULL-FILLED": this place within us can be called, Inner self, Higher self, Higher consciousness etc. We can rise above the self that gets caught up in Fear, hate, scarcity, and all other forms of negativity. This whole book is a about tapping into our higher self.
The choice is ours: Tune into our higher self instead of our mental chatterbox by choosing: I try to control vs. I trust. I don't notice my blessings vs. I appreciate. I need vs. I love. I am incentive vs. I care. I repel vs. I attract. I take vs. I give and receive. I am bored vs. I am involved. I am dissatisfied vs., I am content. I am empty vs. I am filled up. I am afraid vs. I am excited.
THERE IS PLENTY OF TIME: FINAL TAKE AWAY
This book is all about how to make yourself powerful in the face of all your fears. When you feel you are going of course or are being battered by outside forces, come back and reread the tips and parts that make you feel good. The more we practice the better.,
Whenever your chatterbox mind makes you impatient, ask yourself, "What's the rush? IT's all happening perfectly. Don't worry. When I am ready to move forward, I will. In the meantime, I am taking it all in and I am learning."
Say yes to life. Participate. Move. Act., WRITE., READ., SIGN UP. TAKE A STAND. OR do whatever it takes for you. Get involved with the process. TO BECOME INVOLVED IS TO REDUCE OUR FEAR. We become bigger! SO COMMIT TO YOURSELF to pushing through fear and clocking more hate you ar at the present moment.